Make good times of bad weather: Ken Nwadike's story

Once upon a time there was a man who desperately wanted to run in the Boston Marathon in 2014 – like many runners – for the simple reason that it was the first Boston marathon after the terrible attack of 2013. But the Boston marathon is different from most marathons, in that you have to qualify to participate. In other words, you must have completed your previous marathon in a certain amount of time, depending on your age category.

Well, the man in question had 23 seconds less qualifying time to enter the marathon. But he was there, in Boston, and now? He had a number of options.

1. He could get angry. I mean, after all, what is 23 seconds? And who composes these qualifying times anyway?

2. He could blame, or almost, anything, and no matter who. The weather the day of his previous marathon, the shoes he wore, the quarrel that he had with his SO the previous night, not to mention the arrogant marathon elite that was all over the place. first invented these qualifying times (stupid).

3. He could become depressed. There was only one Boston marathon in 2014, there would never be another one. It was going to be a historic race and he was going to miss it. Bummer serious.

4. He could fight. Why, oh why was not it faster? What was the problem with him that he could not even qualify for the Boston Marathon? How dare he think that he could handle the thing?

No matter which of these could have easily turned his tail and go home, angry or depressed, it's up to you.

Instead, Ken Nwadike attended the Boston Marathon in his own way. He made a "Free Hugs" sign, and with this one and a camera on a tripod, he addressed cuddles and smiles to the runners who came across him, his way of encouraging and supporting them. No self pity, no blame, no anger.

Since that humble start, Ken has launched his widely acclaimed Free Hugs campaign, in which his goal is: "By continuing the nonviolent movement of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., the Free Hugs project is to spread the Love, inspire change, and raise awareness of social issues. "

When things go wrong in our lives, as happens from time to time – sometimes seemingly all the time – we have a choice. We can dwell on the "not so good" part, where we can take a break, take a deep breath, assess the situation and find a positive direction to follow.

Of course, there are times when it is important to mourn, to cry, to be angry and to let bad feelings go their way. But it is never in our interest to stay with these feelings, to let them spread in our hearts and minds as we rehearse the horrible / unhappy situation again and again.

Whether it is something small enough in the scheme of things, like missing a marathon, or big, like losing a loved one, let Ken's story inspire you to catch your breath, you reorient and move on to something else that is worth it. Life is rocking! So, can you.